Question on "Can We Withdraw from the 'Withdrawn?'"

In reference to the article, "Can We Withdraw from the Withdrawn," what is the best way to deal with a close family member who needs assistance during an illness? This person had left the church many years ago.

Thanks,

Tolline

Larry's Reply

Tolline,                                

I want to thank you for your very relevant question concerning the limitations placed upon a Christian in their relationships with another Christian who has been “delivered to Satan” in the assembly of a local church (1 Cor 5:4-5). The Christian is commanded in this verse to withdraw his social company from the  man so marked. “But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person” (1 Cor 5:11).

The reason why I would say “social company” is that other verses define the kind of relationships we can have with such a one. “And if anyone does not obey our word in this epistle, note that person and do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed. ¹⁵Yet do not count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother” (2 Thess 3:14-15). This verse tells me the kind of association that is allowed, namely one of teaching and exhortation. What I cannot do, however, is to have normal, everyday social relationships with this one, as if nothing is wrong.

There are relationships that would not be forbidden by these verses. If one needed medical care or some other physical need, the Christian should be able and willing to help. Even in that setting I would try to teach. There could be other scenarios involving a job, basic family needs and other things that are not “social” but everyday issues of living.

The foundational rule that would be in my mind as I make these decisions is: “Does this one think that my actions imply that everything is OK?” and “I am taking every opportunity to urge this one repentance and return to the Lord.”

I hope this has been helpful. Please let me know if you have any additional questions.

In Christian Love,

Larry Rouse