The influence of sentiment has led many into
error with respect to the breaking of the marriage bond. It seems
that those who have studied this question have gone to two extremes.
One extreme is that the bond of union cannot be severed except by
death of one of the parties, and the other extreme is that there is
a multitude of causes which justify the severance of the marriage
relation.
Both of these extremes claim scriptural authority. The advocates of
both have wrested the teachings of Christ to sustain their extreme
positions. Both of these extremes cannot be true. It is possible for
both to be false, but impossible for both to be true. We ought to
know what the New Testament teaches on this question.
It should be remembered that Christ did not institute any new law on
marriage and divorce. He did abrogate the law of Moses with its
tolerations and placed marriage and divorce on the original basis.
He placed marriage on its fundamental basis. He restored the law of
God with respect to marriage. His teachings are clear enough and
simple enough to be understood.
God wants man to understand His teachings on this question, and
holds man responsible for every violation of the fundamental law of
marriage. The fixed, irrevocable, and universal law of God should be
recognized and obeyed. Christ emphasized it in His teachings and we
would do well to be governed by it. This law of indissolubility is
recognized by Christ and has been enforced by the Holy Spirit in the
New Testament.
Man has granted — and grants — divorces on many grounds. There are
many justifiable causes as far as man is concerned.
"Desertion" is one of the common grounds for divorcement. "Penal
servitude," or sentence to imprisonment for crime, is another cause.
"Insanity" is another ground of divorce with man, and
"Incompatibility" is another, which covers a variety of causes.
"Drunkenness with cruelty" is still another cause in many countries
for divorcement. "Adultery" is another cause.
So, in the estimation of man, there are many causes for breaking the
marriage relation — that is, man has assigned many causes for
breaking the fundamental law of human relationship in marriage.
Since God is the author of this basic law, He and He alone can
assign the reason for the dissolution of the union. The courts of
the land dissolve many unions which God still holds as fundamental
and binding. Human laws grant divorces for causes which God does not
permit.
Man's laws cannot change the mind of God or the fundamental law of
God. Hence, man's laws cannot annul the marriage union which God has
sanctioned. Marriage is a solemn oath of union in which both parties
vow fidelity till death parts them. All the legislatures and
teachings of men in the world cannot set aside the fundamental law
of God.
Jesus said, "Everyone that putteth away his wife, saving for the
cause of fornication, maketh her an adulteress: and whosoever shall
marry her when she is put away committeth adultery" (Matt. 5:32).
Later on in the earthly life of Jesus, the Pharisees tested him,
asking, "Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every
cause?" (Matt. 19:3). Here they meant to ask if one could put
away his wife for "any cause." They thought there were many
causes for which a man could put away his wife and give her a bill
of divorcement.
Jesus plainly and simply said, "No!" He referred them to the
fundamental law of marriage. "Have ye not read, that he who made
them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, For
this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave
to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh? So that they are no
more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together,
let not man put asunder" (Matt 19:4-6).
They then asked him, "Why then did Moses command to give a bill
of divorcement, and to put her away?" (Matt. 19:7). Jesus
answered them, saying, "Moses for your hardness of heart suffered
you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it hath not been
so" (Matt. 19:8). Here Jesus restores the marriage relation back
to its original and fundamental law. It matters not how many causes
were granted under the law as grounds of divorcement, Jesus pushes
these aside and places the marriage relation on its fundamental and
basic law.
After restoring marriage to its original, fixed, universal law for
the human family, Jesus then proceeded to teach them the one and
only sin by which the union could be dissolved. "Whosoever shall
put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another,
committeth adultery: and he that marrieth her when she is put away
committeth adultery" (Matt. 19:9).
Why should one misunderstand this? Not only does Jesus bring
marriage back to its original state and intention, but he plainly
states that the only way by which the union may be broken.
Whosoever, then, is married contrary to God's original law is in a
state of adultery. Ignorance of God's law does not excuse one for
disobeying it. His law is as old as the human race, and man has a
record of that law. Hence, it is folly to be ignorant of it and
sinful to violate it.
During the patriarchal and Jewish ages, God saw fit to tolerate some
things that He does not tolerate now. The right and strict law, such
as had been in the beginning while Adam and Eve were in the state of
innocency, and before sin with all of its entailment had mad havoc
of the human family, now has been restored.
The principles of Christianity with respect to the marriage and
divorcement of people restore the lofty and holy relationship in
marriage.